This might be a topic that you can’t wait to dive into — or you maybe you feel a little shy about even opening this article. All of us have our own individual comfort level when it comes to pleasure and sexual health. But it’s an important piece of the puzzle when it comes to our overall health, including during the menopausal transition.
And if you’re questioning whether you’re the only one interested in vibrator use, you’d be wrong. More than 50% of females report using a vibrator and their motivation for use was related to several factors including desire, arousal, lubrication, orgasm, and pain.
The World Health Organization provides a holistic definition that can help us understand the importance of sexual health:
"a state of physical, emotional, mental and social well-being in relation to sexuality.... Sexual health requires a positive and respectful approach to sexuality and sexual relationships, as well as the possibility of having pleasurable and safe sexual experiences, free of coercion, discrimination and violence. For sexual health to be attained and maintained, the sexual rights of all persons must be respected, protected and fulfilled."
Like many other things during the menopausal transition, there are changes that happen related to our sexual health that we may need to think about differently. Let’s dive into what those changes might be and how a vibrator can be a helpful tool in improving sexual health as you age.
What is a vibrator?
While they can come in all shapes, sizes, colors, materials, at the root of it, vibrators are just motors. They’re devices that produce vibrations or pulses of varied strength and frequency and can be used for sexual stimulation. Although often marketed to females, vibrators can be used by people of all gender and sexual orientations. And they can be used on your own or with a partner.
How does a vibrator work?
For females, vibrators work by creating vibrations that stimulate the clitoris. The clitoris is a small, sensitive organ located at the top of the vagina. While the external part of the clitoris is quite small, the internal anatomy of the clitoris is 10 times larger. The entire clitoris (external and internal) is sensitive to the use of vibration for stimulation. Vibrators can also be used to stimulate other erogenous zones, such as the breasts, nipples, and anus.
What changes happen during menopause related to sexual health?
During the menopausal transition, many people experience a decrease in sexual desire and arousal. This is due to the decline in estrogen and progesterone levels, which can lead to vaginal dryness, pain during sex, a decrease in libido, and less sensitivity of the clitoris. In addition, blood supply to the clitoris and lower vagina are reduced, which can also affect arousal and pleasure. All these changes can make it difficult to enjoy sex and have orgasms.
How can a vibrator improve my sexual health during menopause?
The use of a vibrator is an evidence-based treatment for anorgasmia (delayed, infrequent or absent orgasms) and can show benefits for pelvic floor dysfunction and vulvar pain, so medical professionals may recommend them for certain sexual health issues.
But it can also be used to help enhance pleasure and the ability to orgasm, either on your own or with a partner. Vibrators can also improve sexual health during menopause by:
- Stimulating the clitoris and providing relief from vaginal dryness.
- Improving circulation and increasing blood flow to the genitals.
- Increasing arousal and desire.
- Improving orgasms.
- Reducing stress.
- Boosting self-confidence and body image.
- Improving firmness/tone of the pelvic floor muscles.
What should I consider when shopping for a vibrator?
Depending on where you shop, some vibrators are advertised as a personal massager. Vibrators come in various shapes, sizes, and intensities, so some research may be needed to find one that works for you and your preferences.
When shopping for a vibrator, consider the following factors:
- Your needs and preferences
- Your budget
- The features that are important to you
- The size and shape of the vibrator
- The intensity of the vibrations (as you age you may find that a more intense vibration is needed for arousal and orgasm)
- The noise level of the vibrator
- The warranty
It’s also important to do your research and read reviews before purchasing a vibrator. This can help you find a vibrator that’s safe, effective, and meets your needs.
Whether you’re new to using exploring vibrator use or have been at it for years, enjoy exploring your needs, the needs of your partner, and discovering what’s best for you now and in the future, as your needs and preferences may change.
